National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims

State Director Kim Moyer Reflects on a recent ceremony held to commemorate the National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims



One woman’s son was murdered in a drive-by shooting, and another woman’s 14 year-old daughter was murdered by a boy that she broke up with. The sad stories went on all evening as people greeted each other. These grieving families and many more survivors were among the more than 70 people attending the National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims ceremony held in Oklahoma City. Marsy’s Law for Oklahoma members were proud to help organize and support these families on this important day.

District Attorney David Prater knows most of them. As we sat together waiting to speak to the group, he talked with me about not just the strength it takes for them to get through the investigation of their loved ones murder, but also the incredible strength it takes to move through the pain every day afterwards. He spoke to the group, which also included several members of law enforcement, OKC fire department officials and OSBI Director Ricky Adams about supporting each other because it will take everyone working together to help these families.


After prayers and poems, SQ 794 supporter Lauren Layman and president of the Oklahoma Homicide Survivor Support Group, gave a tribute to her Great Grandmother who was murdered. Through her tears, Lauren reminded attendees their group is always a welcoming place that victims can feel supported and get advice. She also encouraged them all to think about the future and how they should all work together to make sure Oklahoma crime victims receive the support and services called for in SQ 794.


As the candle lighting ceremony ended this special night, each family lit a candle in honor of someone in their life impacted by homicide. Others lit their candle for the survivors in the room. As they left the event, each received a rose tied with a purple ribbon from the Marsy’s Law team. It was small moment in time for survivors to know they were not alone. We surrounded them with love to give them hope that working together we’ll make it easier for the victims and survivors in the future.